Eventually, we started looking at china and I mentioned that I already have two sets of china--one from my first wedding and one that was passed down from my grandmother. I noticed Joe bristle. He's been great at handling the fact that I'm divorced and has never passed judgment on me. When I asked him what was wrong, he said that he really wanted things that were "ours," not "mine." He said that we would be using the china at family gatherings like Thanksgiving and Christmas and that he didn't want even a speck of my first marriage lingering around.

I totally understand and respect where he's coming from. The only bummer is that I love my china and if it had to go, I wanted to find it a good home. I told Joe that I'd find a way to get rid of the china. So I e-mailed my mother and asked her if she would like some new gold china and she e-mailed back two seconds later and said, "Are you kidding? YES!" Problem solved.