Every now and then, I find myself at a point of reflection — thinking about how my life has transitioned since my divorce and moving East, and how things have been made possible through a series of sacrifices and learning to operate outside my comfort zone. Since becoming involved with the First Wives World community, I've been bombarded with thoughts about the last four years of my life.

There have been many changes in my life since my divorce: Moving from Colorado to San Francisco, then to New York; bad job to good job to no job (employment being replaced by school); several changes of friends; and an ever-fluctuating waistline. These are just a few of the things that I've contended with in recent years. Sometimes I feel as if there has just been too much change and instability in my life — most people my age don't hop around as much as I have.

They have stable jobs, a home life or other adult-like responsibilities to keep them grounded. I have none of that. One would think that this would make me sad or regretful. On the contrary, I know that I've had opportunities to do and see things that I wouldn't have otherwise! Take packing my car and driving to California on a whim and moving to New York to pursue my degree. They're not things I could have done with a family. I love the freedom I have to experience life and all its turns, the ability I have to call my own shots. I know one day I will achieve "stability," but for now, it's all about finding happiness in the fact that I am doing exactly what I want to right now.