Let me start by saying, No! I did not buy my ex a Christmas gift! I am not the most forgiving person in the world, and I recognize this flaw in myself. That being said. I'm curious as to how many people actually purchased a gift for their ex at the holidays? I am not talking about going out and buying a present for your child to present to the other parent. I mean a gift straight from you to your ex or soon-to-be-ex.

I received a gift from my ex, which is why I began thinking about this. I'm wondering if I'm just bitter. I mean, beyond the normal point of anger we all feel at the end of a relationship. I was actually a little angry that he bought me a gift. I know that probably makes no sense at all.

During our marriage, my ex always presented me with gifts, usually when he was acting the worst, or wanting something. I became annoyed with these trivial items in place of any actual communication or closeness. I wish I could return these so-called "gifts" for some things that could have actually made a difference.

Like maybe giving back the tennis bracelet in trade for listening to ME instead of the local news. I could even trade some of those fancy kitchen gadgets for not changing the subject when I'm trying to talk about something I feel is important.

I did not return the favor and get my ex a gift this year. I have given him all I could think of, that was long before I ever left.