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You know the saying that behind every great man is a woman. So it should not be surprising that there’s a woman behind Thanksgiving, too. The fact we even have it as a national holiday is due to the dogged efforts of Sarah Josepha Hale, the 19th century version of Oprah Winfrey. Hale was the editor of Godey's Lady’s Book. She was so enamored with the values of the pilgrims — steadfast, hardworking, religious, tenacious — she relentlessly used editorials year after year to promote the idea of Thanksgiving.

In addition to raising five children, advocating equal education for women, writing novels and poems, including “Mary Had a Little Lamb,” Hale lobbied President Lincoln with the determination of a Sherman tank. Finally, in the middle of the Civil War, President Lincoln declared Thursday, Nov. 23, 1863 a national holiday.

The idea of the holiday was not just gratitude but of giving to others.

And this year, more than any in recent memory, more people are in need of a helping hand. The loss of jobs has created a bigger need for food and a heaping spoonful of generosity.

All food banks are expecting an increase of people in need at their organizations. Whether serving food, packing grocery bags, or sorting canned items, you can spend a few hours of volunteering and make a difference.

Considering that custody agreements are written so that parents alternate every Thanksgiving, some divorced moms will be without their kids and alone. Or they may be at another relative or friend’s house. Volunteering empowers you to see how you can make a difference. Instead of feeling helpless, you are helpful. And doing good makes you feel good.

For moms that have their children, incorporating volunteerism is a valuable lesson and future ammunition to say, “You want a Wii? Well so did the boy at Thanksgiving but we’ll have to give you what we can and be grateful.” It also explains the theory of relativity better than any Einstein biography.

Volunteerism also illustrates, in a way no lecture can, what it means to be fortunate and to share. It reminds us how life goes up and down but that it is the brotherhood — or sisterhood — of all people helping each other that gives us a sense of belonging and faith in possibility and change.

Here are 8 places where you can be part of ThanksDOing.

1. Boys and Girls Clubs of America

Go online to find your local Boys and Girls Club community center. The centers, and there are more than 4,000 across the country, normally give out food to kids the day before Thanksgiving. This is where my son, Parker, and I volunteer every holiday. We'll bake cakes and brownies — children tend to prefer brownies over pumpkin pies — and bring them as well. It's become an annual tradition for us and it also shows my son that, even when people are poor, there is still love and laughter. These families just have less materially.

2. New York City Coalition Against Hunger
This group is made up of more than 1,200 nonprofit soup kitchens and food pantries in New York City. This is their 25th anniversary year, and their help is needed now more than ever. They accept both donations and volunteers. Their nifty online volunteer matching system offers plenty of choices, including “holidays.”

3. Greater Chicago Food Depository

This organization, which supplies 600 soup kitchens, food pantries, and shelters, children’s programs, and programs for seniors in Chicago, reports a 33 percent increase in need this year. They accept donations of money and good, and also need volunteers.

4. Greater Boston Food Bank

When this group says it served Greater Boston, it means the entire eastern part of the state. A survey it sent out in September showed that 90 percent of member agencies that responded said their needs had increased and 47 percent said they had run out of food at some point in the previous year. It accepts donations of food and money, and has an extensive volunteer program, including Kids Who Care, which is focused on children and family volunteers.

5. Los Angeles Regional Food Bank

Demand at the Los Angeles Regional Food Bank is up 41 percent this year. This being LA, if you volunteer to help, you may end up working alongside Teri Hatcher or Simon Cowell. Volunteers must be 14 or older, and wear closed-toe shoes. Their pre-Thanksgiving sort-a-thon will take place November 24 through 26, and volunteers as well as donations are needed.

6. Capital Area Food Bank

This organization, based in Washington DC, offers to send a Thanksgiving basket to a senior citizen enrolled in its brown bag program for a donation of just $15. Last year, they say, they sent out 1,880 Thanksgiving baskets. Children under 10 are not allowed to volunteer in the warehouse. Youths under 16 must come with an adult.

7. Volunteer Match

Here’s one that is easy to do. Go to volunteermatch.org and, by simply typing in your zip code and the word "Thanksgiving", you will be connected to many local opportunities.

8. If you can't find an organization near you, call a local church or synagogue. This year, with the need being greater, one family created a drive to fill bags with toothpaste, toothbrushes, soaps and toiletries that homeless families may need. You can be inventive in organizing friends and family to help others in many ways.

This, more than anything, is in the spirit of the holiday.