You're ready to take the plunge. The dating plunge, that is. Maybe it's been awhile? So what's a woman to do — if she hasn't dated in decades? Last week, Dr. Diana Kirschner described the signs to look for to know that you're ready to date again in "Getting Back in the Dating Game, Part One." This week, she offers dating 101 protocol.

Q. If you feel out of practice at the whole dating thing, how can you "cram" for your first date? 

Think about some movies, plays, or news events (not emotionally-polarizing events) that drew your interest lately. Be prepared to talk about them. Also, google the guy and see if you can find out whether you might have mutual interests that you can discuss. Googling in advance of a first date is a good practice in terms of meeting someone who comes from an online site — you can check on whether the guy is honest!

Q. If it's been awhile since you last dated (say 10 years!), how do you know how quickly things should go?

They should go slowly!! Learning to date is like learning to swim. Take your time and do friendly (no sex) dating with several guys at once in order to  master dating. You want to learn about what you need and want in a partner at this stage in your life. If you jump in to fast, you can get emotionally entangled before you even know the guy. And he can reject you, disappear on you, disappoint you — regardless of how loving he is initially. Make him hang in there and prove himself. I've seen the too-fast-too-soon-with-one-guy (Flame-out Deadly Dating pattern) hurt a lot of women.
 
Q. Let's say you adore the first man you date post-divorce. Should you proceed with the relationship — or date a few more guys before getting serious with one?

Please consider dating a few more guys!!! See answer above.
 
Q. What the easiest way to tell a man you're interested in pursuing a relationship?

Suggest doing an activity together that you both have expressed interest in (seeing a great new movie, an art show, etc). Flirt with him —touch his arm, whisper in his ear, play with your hair, give him a validating nickname.

Psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner has appeared on Oprah and is a frequent guest on The Today Show. Her acclaimed new book is Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. For her etips, blog, dating articles, daily affirmations, and discussion forum, visit lovein90days.com.

Check back next Friday for more dating tips from Dr. Diana!