http://www.firstwivesworld.com/summary/all/tags/remarry The taxonomy view with a depth of 0. en http://www.firstwivesworld.com/polls/whats-your-biggest-fear-or-obstacle-in-getting-remarried * I&#039;m doomed to make the same mistakes all over again * My friends will start a wager on how long this one will last * I&#039;ll be too scared to leave if this one doesn&#039;t work * He&#039;ll either cheat on me or leave me * If this marriage fails, there must be something wrong with me * I have no fears! I&#039;m moving on with confidence http://www.firstwivesworld.com/polls/whats-your-biggest-fear-or-obstacle-in-getting-remarried#comments divorce poll remarry second weddings Sex and Love Moving Beyond Divorce Wed, 24 Sep 2008 11:22:44 -0400 Marshall 7822 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/jill-brooke/the-freedom-redefine-divorce <p>As you may know, my pals at <b>FWW</b> and I are engaged. Yes, we've made a commitment to changing the face of divorce and creating new terms to define this life event. </p><p>Divorce is a change that whether you wanted it or not, transitions you to something else. Often that transition becomes a springboard to a new career, a new love, a new way of looking at life and yourself. </p><p>It no longer is the end but a beginning. </p><p>When I split from my first husband, I never thought of myself as a divorced woman. I just thought of myself as a free woman. Free to do anything I wanted. Free to have a life full of possibility instead of predictability. Free of someone who criticized what I did to keep me connected to him even though his opinion hadn't mattered for a long time. Free to reinvent myself and find someone who was truly compatible with me instead of someone who fit a resume I was programmed from childhood to care about. The liberation was intoxicating. </p><p>Oh yes. I was one of those people you rarely hear about. I was someone who settled. Okay, I admit it. I was 30. All my friends were getting married and suddenly it hit me that along with finishing college, finding a paying job, and being single in the city for a few years, it was now time to find a husband as part of a life trajectory that resembled synchronized swimming. But early on in the marriage I knew I was drowning. </p><p>So I got out. Despite my friends telling me that I should stick it out because a) I may not meet someone else or b) he wasn't that bad. But something deep inside knew that we weren't in sync as though a VCR tape was shoved into a DVD player. Nor did I want to live my life knowing that I had settled. It felt like cheating. </p><p><a href="http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/jill-brooke/the-freedom-redefine-divorce">read more</a></p> http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/jill-brooke/the-freedom-redefine-divorce#comments contest freedom redine divorce remarry second marriage Prosperity and Power Contemplating Divorce Navigating Divorce Moving Beyond Divorce Tue, 21 Oct 2008 11:29:46 -0400 Jill Brooke 7969 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com